Shad Thames, London
The site was recommended to me by someone who had apparently heard from someone else that they were a decent tshirt printer. I had intended to use them to print out my Sailor Mew shirts: (preview below)
My shirts arrived almost a week late, so I was unable to sell them at Anime Boston. But…
When I asked a male friend of mine what he thought about Hard To Get, he told me: “Well, you know, there is a right and a wrong way to play Hard To Get.”
“Enlighten me!”
“It’s fine if she’s all Oh, I don’t know…I’ve been hurt before…let’s take it slow. But I hate when she lays it on too thick. Not just ‘hard’ to get—impossible to get!”
“You mean, when she’s really saying No?”
“Yeah! It really pisses me off. I’m a nice guy, so why does she have to be such a bitch?”
My friend played by the rules, fought hard for a woman’s attention, and thus felt entitled to his “prize.” His reaction to being “cheated” was to label the woman who refused her consent a “bitch.” Were he to say this to her directly, it would be a verbal assault. Were he to forcefully push on to get what he felt he had “earned,” it would be rape.
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Rachel Kay Albers, Why I Never Play Hard To Get on Feminspire.com (via feminspire) dear anyone who talks about the friend zone, thinks it exists, or thinks that they are stuck in it: No means No. (via pampampam) |
